Includes index.

pt. I. The essence of adolescence. The benefits and challenges of adolescence -- Maintaining the power and purpose of the adolescent mind into adulthood -- Adolescence from the inside out -- Risk and reward -- Pushing away -- The timing of puberty, sexuality, and adolescence -- The stress and distress of our extended adolescence -- Adolescent transitions and the centrality of our relationships -- Mindsight tools #1: Seeing and shaping the sea inside -- Three basic kinds of mindsight maps -- Seeing inside the sea inside -- Mindsight practices : A. Insight and SIFTing the mind ; Physical sight of the material world versus mindsight of the inner world -- B. Mindsight illuminated ; empathy -- C. Empathy ; Integration -- D. Sensing the harmony of integration ; When integration is not present: chaos or rigidity -- E. Name it to tame it -- F. Detecting chaos or rigidity and balancing the mind ; Mindsight strengthens the mind, the brain, and our relationships -- pt. II. Your brain. Dopamine, decisions, and the drive for reward -- Family, friends, and fooling around -- The purpose of adolescence -- Making decisions -- "Don't do it" doesn't do it: the power of promoting the positive -- Integrating your brain -- A handy model of the brain -- Adolescence as the gateway to creative exploration -- Creating collaboration across the generations -- Vulnerability and opportunity -- The remodeling brain and flipping our lids -- Adolescence builds integration in the brain -- The emotional lower brain -- Hardwired or adventure and connection -- Mindsight tools #2: Time-in -- Time-in, mindsight, and mindful awareness -- Being present for what is happening as it is happening -- Mindsight practices : A. Breath awareness ; Building mindsight's lens ; Integrating consciousness with the wheel of awareness -- B. The wheel of awareness ; Reflecting on the wheel --

pt. III. Your attachments. Safe harbor and launching pad -- The ways we attach : The secure model ; The avoidant model ; The ambivalent model ; The disorganized model -- Reactive attachment -- Earning secure attachment and integrating the brain ; Reflecting on your attachments and making sense of your life -- Questions for reflection on attachment -- Our attachment narratives and the two sides of the brain -- Avoidance, emotional distance, and the left side of the brain -- Ambivalence, emotional confusion, and the right side of the brain -- Disorganized attachment and a dissociating brain -- Creating a safe harbor and launching pad for adolescents -- Mindsight tools #3: Time-between and reflective conversation -- Making sense of how our models shape our present -- Mindsight practices : A. Reflecting on how your attachment models shape your reflective conversations ; Reflection, integration, and the origins of empathy -- B. Reflective conversations ; The PART we play in creating ourselves in relationships -- C. Repairing ruptures -- pt. IV. Staying present through changes and challenges. Honoring the person an adolescent is becoming -- Leaving home -- Puberty, sexuality, and identity -- Hooking up -- Romance and first love -- First be present -- Changes and challenges to integration -- Acceptance, letting go of expectations, and sexual orientation -- Drug use or abuse? -- Return home: reflection, realignment, and repairing ruptures -- Mindsight tools #4: The mindsight simple seven -- Mindsight practices : A. Time-in -- B. Sleep time -- C. Focus time -- D. Downtime -- E. Playtime -- F. Physical time -- G. Connecting time --Conclusion: MWe and the integration of identity.